״I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is, some people are okay going to work, and some people well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose.״
- Dr. Wong from Rick and Morty Season 3, Episode 3
This is my favorite quote from media about what everyday therapy is like. Before I started practice this profession, my initial impression about therapy from media is that it is a place of profoundness, wisdom, and maybe tears from clients realizing that their struggles are eventually tied to their childhood trauma. As I started practicing, I realized that these moments on TV do sometimes happen, and they can be great moments. But, if that is my expectation of therapy, that is a lot of pressure both on me and the client to perform. The truth is - I am not that profound, not that wise, and I struggle to cry sometimes.
Everyday therapy means a space where I don't have to perform as a wise therapist, and you don't have to perform as a broken client. In 2026, there is no wisdom, no technique, no strategy that you cannot already access in 10 minutes with artificial intelligence. I certainly cannot beat AI in that regard, but I can be a human! I will be curious about your feelings and thoughts when you experience something, and I will try to genuinely share how I feel and think in that moment, recognizing that my feelings and thoughts are my own, and not anyone else's responsibility. And maybe, we will reach somewhere in our dialogue that connects, grounds, and heals us.
What is Therapy for the everyday?
Over the years, I have become less and less fond of the word "couples therapy." Relationship therapy is for all kinds of relationships: friends, families, lovers, situationships, you and your dom, plus everything in between. Attending relationship therapy is not automatically a sign that your relationship is in bad shape. Instead, it can be a sign of care, a need for clarity, or simply an act of maintenance. How I do relationship therapy follows the same principle as individual therapy: I am committed to providing a space for everyone in the room to express their emotions and thoughts, no matter how "right" or "wrong" they are perceived to be.
Despite what people believe, relationship therapists like me do not have perfect relationships in our lives. In fact, I sometimes struggle to live by the same principle I preach. Therefore, I am certainly not an expert on how you should talk and act in your relationship, but my goal is to organize our conversation. Hopefully, we can uncover unsaid words, unnamed dynamics, and our vulnerabilities together. Since nobody taught us how to love ourselves and love each other, let's figure this out together.
Relationship therapy
Therapy for children and teens
Honestly, child or teen therapy is a bit of a misnomer. Adults are just children with responsibilities. If you are a kid reading this, know that your needs are exactly the same as those of adults in your life. The difference is that their responsibilities sometimes take priority. Now is such a good time to talk about your feelings and thought process before you have to think about paying rent and taxes.
My childhood might be a bit different from yours - I came to Toronto when I was 17 from China. When I was a kid, I was a "school hopper" - I changed school 5 different times for various reasons before coming to Canada, and 4 of those are full-time boarding schools (you only go back home for the weekends). This means I had to make new friends and find new reasons to like where I was each time. I was a quiet kid with mostly video games to keep me company, but at times I can be quite social, it was really confusing to me who I was and who I wanted to be.
If I can let you in on a secret: I am still on the same journey of figuring out who I am, and who I want to be. Despite most adults' effort to hide it, they are also struggling with their identity, their feelings, and their purpose in life. In our session together, it will become really obvious to you that I don't know more about what you are going through than you do, but I will be there as you navigate through your life, not as a guide - but more like brother-in-arms, and hopefully we can get somewhere that feels worthwhile.
